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I taught my son to shave yesterday. I can’t believe I just typed that, much less actually handed him the razor. But I did, in a quiet, low-key ceremony without pomp, I handed him the razor. And now my mind seems to be stuck in slow motion, as if to rebel against some perceived speed infraction of life traveling by.
“Slow down life!” No response. Mist, indeed.
I gaze deliberately around my mind’s corners and see years stacking up like yellowing newspapers towering on a hoarder’s kitchen table. My eye pauses and strains to see wrinkled headlines of memories past. There’s one. It’s the time when Abbigail cut her own hair, hid the evidence, and with a poker face that would have caused the biggest, Vegas high-roller to squirm with envy said, “I did not cut my hair and put it behind the couch.” A smile.
There’s another. One of many tea parties with Emily no doubt, filled with high-pitched, but awesome British-ish accents, invisible crumpets, and names like Misses Dinglehoffer and Mr. Farggennewton. She starts college in the fall.
The problems of then seem so much smaller than the problems of now.
Images flash on. The happy scenes are many, but the trials seem no less vivid. Life can be hard on this groaning ball. There’s real pain here – big, bold pain that brings the gears of life to a screeching halt. Tears. Then the gears turn again, slower than before but gaining speed now. Normalcy, but not really.
God says it’s never meaningless. Questions remain.
We’re here, and then we’re not. Blink, it’s gone. So what do we do? Make mud pies and hope for the best? I’ll pass. I want more, I want to give myself to joy. If joy won’t have me at the moment, if the inn is full, I’ll suffer meaningfully. May it be so, Lord.
Christ reigns. He decides, not me.
I want Him to have all of me. And snippets like yesterday, when I pause and struggle to find my bearing because time seems to be winning, I want north to be Christ. Always, eternally focused. I want to spend my life experiencing the awkwardness of being in the world, but not of the world. Homeless, but homeward-bound.
My story… my mist, is part of His story. And His story is one of glory and grace, mercy and meaning. That’s the mast I’m nailing my colors to. The joy I’m after lies in His story and is of the all-sufficient, deep, abiding type. No cheap thrills, no emotional highs, no shallow platitudes…
…Joy that can break in on a small bathroom, as a father hands his son a razor for the first time, and sadness lurks near. Yep…
I did, I handed him the razor. A smile.
As the beginning of Advent draws near (this Sunday), I thought I would share the words* of Melito of Sardis, the bishop of Sardis in the 2nd century. In each of these phrases, he seems to have captured at least a part of the biblical tension we need to have when we think of the Incarnation. May these truths be a blessing to you and cause your heart to turn to our Savior in worship.
Though he was incorporeal, he formed for himself a body like ours.
He appeared as one of the sheep; yet, he remained the Shepherd.
He was esteemed a servant; yet he did not renounce being a Son.
He was carried about in the womb of Mary, yet he was clothed in the nature of this Father.
He walked on the earth, yet he filled heaven.
He appeared as an infant, yet he did not discard his eternal nature.
He was invested with a body, but it did not limit his divinity.
He was esteemed poor, yet he was not divested of this riches.
He needed nourishment because he was man, yet he did not cease to nourish the entire world, because he is God.
He put on the likeness of a servant, yet it did not impair the likeness of his Father.
He was everything by his unchangeable nature.
He was standing before Pilate, and at the same time he was sitting with his Father.
He was nailed on a tree, yet he was the Lord of all things.
(*Taken from Gregg Allison’s rendering of the original in his Historical Theology.)
The little furry black dog chased Deron and me as we ran back and forth across the small room just off the living room. Our goal was to annoy it into a frenzy and it had worked. Mawmaw yelled “get down Scamp!” in a short agitated voice as it jumped off the couch with its tongue hanging out. We looked at each other and laughed.
Coffee had been made —coffee was always being made; the smell is still almost touchable. No doubt there was a plate of peanut candy on the kitchen table not quite covered with a piece of crumpled tin foil half-pulled back from where the last spoon tore off a chunk (I loved that candy). Or maybe half a watermelon still sitting out, left from earlier. Most likely it was either a Friday or Saturday evening. I think we made it down to Mawmaw and Pawpaw’s at least once a week or so in my younger years. I remember it being just something we did.
I’m thankful for the “it was just something we did” things.
Over the past couple of weeks my mind has made a sporadic routine of pulling these scattered memories from the corners of long ago. As each one comes into focus, I strain to adjust its clarity, hoping to stretch its borders to include a bit more of the moment. Scenes like my cousin Aaron and I cutting hay bale strings (Aaron told me he had finally confessed to Pawpaw we did that; I’m glad), playing in the barn loft, diggin’ taters, pulling watermelons from Paw’s patch, checking the cows with Paw, and on and on they have come —thankfully.
And as each comes, I can’t help but recapture a feeling which I am confident I once took for granted. The feeling is difficult to explain, but maybe something like, comfortable. But that’s not really big enough; more like a natural or even a safe sort of comfortable. But even that still doesn’t fit just right. Either way, it may sound silly, but it feels good to let it linger for a bit when it comes.
I left Louisiana almost 17 years ago, and with it, not just Mom and Dad and Deron, but the 120+ members of the Thaxton family and I don’t know how many on Mom’s side. Of course, it’s been my decision to stay in the military this long; a journey that has taken us all over the country and almost a dozen different houses. But as I begin to contemplate finishing it off, I am starting to realize in full, just what it has cost. Not just for me, but for my wife and children too.
Abby, my youngest, asked me the other day in a quiet, serious voice did I just live in that one house the entire time I grew up. I said “yes,” to which she replied in a sad voice, “that must have been nice.” There was no anger or bitterness, just a sense that she would have enjoyed it. She would have.
I don’t mean to sound like I regret the life I have chosen, but as we get ready to box everything up once again, I guess I’m just doing a little “where am I in life?” assessment. God has been overwhelmingly gracious and has kept us, literally kept “us” together with sweet care. And I am thankful beyond words for God’s blessings in my life.
In about two weeks, I will once again be able to say “I live in Louisiana.” Not Sabine Parish, but Louisiana nonetheless. I told Dani yesterday that I didn’t think I wanted to leave this time around, though I didn’t put it in those specific words. God, of course, may have other plans for us, but I’m ready to go home… home. Yes. That’s it. That’s the feeling I felt… it felt like home.
For the past few days, I have been lingering over a simple question: Do Christians really believe what we say we believe?
No deep theology here, just a question.
In every other area of life I can think of, a question like this is silly. As human beings, we unfailingly act in a way that is consistent with what we believe (or know) about the effects of either acting in a certain way or not acting in a certain way. For example, here’s the same question focused on a different subject. Do you as an automobile driver really believe what you say you believe about seat belts? Well, I don’t know, but all I need to do is monitor your use of a seatbelt to find out. If you wear it, you really do believe that you are more likely to be seriously injured in an accident if you’re not wearing it; or you may believe that you will get a ticket if you choose not wear it. Either way, your beliefs are directly influencing your actions. You can apply this same line of thinking to everything we do in life.
So for Christians to say that we believe in the gospel of Jesus Christ as man’s only hope of salvation, how do we not make every effort to spread this good news? If we really believe that God sacrificed His perfect son as a ransom for sinners, in order that He might become our supreme treasure and all-satisfying joy, how do we not share Him with others? If we really believe that an eternity of torment awaits those who reject Christ, how do we sit idly by and watch the world, including our loved ones, shuffle over the edge of death? Do we really believe that the gospel is the power of God to save sinners?
Or are we more concerned that it may be ‘awkward’ to tell someone Jesus died for sinners like me and like you?
How self-centered are we to think that someone else will take care of spreading hope to the lost? How prideful am I to think being embarrassed may not be worth laying an offer of ever-lasting joy before a soul destined for hell?
Do we really believe what we say we believe?
“For everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved. How then will they call on him in whom they have not believed? And how are they to believe in him of whom they have never heard?” Romans 10:13-14
I hate sin. I hate the tempting promises it makes, all the while keeping its hidden blade of terror out of sight. I see its effects and weep at the wake of death and destruction it leaves behind. But as much as I hate sin, God hates it more… much more. And therein lies a problem, THE problem.
Too often though, I fear that we present an unbalanced gospel – one that is heavy on the “God is love” and light on the “wrath of God.” Each truth is an integral part of the gospel, but neither by itself is the gospel. We dilute God’s act of sovereign rescue if we sentimentalize Him to some unbiblical form of sappy love. A quick way to gauge your understanding of salvation through the gospel is to ask the question “Saved from what?”
Read the Psalmist’s words:
God is a righteous judge, and a God who feels indignation every day. If a man does not repent, God will whet his sword; he has bent and readied his bow; he has prepared for him his deadly weapons, making his arrows fiery shafts. (Psalms 7:11-12)
Some people have a hard time thinking about God like this and instead have created in their minds a very different version from the God in the Bible; one that I would submit is no God at all. The God of ancient Israel who’s “wrath burned hot” against sin is the same God of today. God’s perfect justice demands that He be this way and His immutability demands that He remain this way.
Lest I present a skewed picture myself, let me offer in fact, that God is love… and therein lies a solution, THE solution. The transcendent truth of this reality is mind-boggling. What in the world does it mean that God, in His very being, is love? As difficult a question as that may be to answer, it might be helpful to see this love in action. As a matter of fact, it might be helpful to see both His wrath and His love in action, simultaneously.
But where can we go to see such a thing? Where is the one place where God’s love and God’s wrath are observable and merge in a way that both are perfectly and completely displayed for the world to see?
And here lies the cross, the cross of Jesus Christ.
When you look at the cross, with Jesus hanging there, His weight tearing at the flesh held in place by spikes, blood flowing freely from His wounds, suffering unimaginably, dying – when you see that… see God’s wrath being poured out. See God’s anger and hatred of sin. See God’s utter contempt and condemnation of sin in the flesh of His perfect Son. And see Christ Jesus drinking God’s wrath to the very last drop.
When you look at the cross, with Jesus hanging there, the infinitely Undeserving paying the penalty for the infinitely deserving, freely laying down His life at the will of His Father, suffering our death and judgment, bearing our sin, dying – when you see that… see God’s great love for His children. See God willing to sacrificially intervene on behalf of unworthy guilty sinners, because He loves us. See God not only offer, but finish His eternal purpose of bringing glory to His name and saving a people to himself.
We do no justice to the fullness of God’s love by dismissing God’s wrath. In fact, we empty the cross of its power and cheapen the price Christ paid through His death and suffering if we try to leave it out of our understanding of the gospel. The reality is that we are all in trouble before a perfectly holy and righteous God because of our sin.
And here lies the gospel… the Gospel of Jesus Christ.
“But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ—by grace you have been saved—” (Ephesians 2:4-5)
By my sin and yours, we built the cross that God hung His Son on to die. Even still, we can have an assured hope that our guilt will not be counted against us if we recognize Jesus as our Savior, as the supreme treasure that He is, as our one and only path to reconciliation with God. That really is good news.
“There is therefore, now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” (Romans 8:1)
*The title question came from Mr. Ed, an older and wiser saint from my church.
I know lots of folks say that God is sovereign, but do we really mean sovereign? Or do we mean He is in control so far as we’re comfortable allowing Him to be in control? Just a thought, but it seems to me that the Biblical definition of God’s sovereignty is mighty big, all-encompassing actually.
So I thought I would share how I arrive at my understanding of the subject, meaning the actual Scriptures which support it. I offer the list of verses below, which is nowhere near exhaustive, to let God’s Word speak for itself without comment. Every passage, when taken in full context, I believe demonstrates some aspect of God’s overall sovereignty.
But before the list, a word of caution against fatalism and/or accusing God of evil. The Bible is clear that God is holy and is not culpable of evil. The Bible is also clear that humans are all morally accountable for our actions. Let us not then distort the Bible’s teaching with our fallen and sinfully-tainted sense of things. These truths are not be minimalized or apologized for, but are to cause worship for a God who can and does work all things for good for His children, even amidst a sinful world.
Lastly, our thoughts regarding this subject are so easily swayed by our preconceptions. Often times, without realizing it, we allow our views to be influenced by things other than God’s infallible Word. Accordingly, let us turn always to Christ and God’s redemptive purposes through Christ for true orientation. Thus, I start with the cross, which was to fulfill God’s ultimate and eternal purpose (Ephesians 3:11).
this Jesus, delivered up according to the definite plan and foreknowledge of God, you crucified and killed by the hands of lawless men. (Acts 2:23)
For truly in this city there were gathered together against your holy servant Jesus, whom you anointed, both Herod and Pontius Pilate, along with the Gentiles and the peoples of Israel, to do whatever your hand and your plan had predestined to take place. (Acts 4:27-28)
Yet it was the will of the LORD to crush him; he has put him to grief… (Isaiah 53:10)
The counsel of the Lord stands forever, the plans of his heart to all generations. (Psalm 33:11)
Come now, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go into such and such a town and spend a year there and trade and make a profit”—yet you do not know what tomorrow will bring… Instead you ought to say, “If the Lord wills, we will live and do this or that.” (James 4:13-15)
The lot is cast into the lap, but its every decision is from the LORD. (Proverbs 16:33)
Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the LORD that will stand. (Proverbs 19:21)
A man’s steps are from the LORD; how then can man understand his way? (Proverbs 20:24)
The king’s heart is a stream of water in the hand of the LORD; he turns it wherever he will. (Proverbs 21:1)
I will have mercy on whom I have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I have compassion.” So then it depends not on human will or exertion, but on God, who has mercy. (Romans 9:15-16)
See now that I, even I, am he, and there is no god beside me; I kill and I make alive; I wound and I heal; and there is none that can deliver out of my hand. (Deuteronomy 32:39)
The LORD kills and brings to life; he brings down to Sheol and raises up. The Lord makes poor and makes rich; he brings low and he exalts. He raises up the poor from the dust; he lifts the needy from the ash heap to make them sit with princes and inherit a seat of honor. For the pillars of the earth are the Lord’s, and on them he has set the world. (1 Samuel 2:6-8)
Then the LORD said to [Moses], “Who has made man’s mouth? Who makes him mute, or deaf, or seeing, or blind? Is it not I, the LORD?” (Exodus 4:11)
Is a trumpet blown in a city, and the people are not afraid? Does disaster come to a city, unless the LORD has done it? (Amos 3:6)
[God] works all things according to the counsel of his will. (Ephesians 1:11)
I form light and create darkness, I make well-being and create calamity, I am the LORD, who does all these things. (Isaiah 45:7)
All the inhabitants of the earth are accounted as nothing, and he does according to his will among the host of heaven and among the inhabitants of the earth; and none can stay his hand or say to him, “What have you done?” (Daniel 4:35)
Our God is in the heavens; he does all that he pleases. (Psalm 115:3)
The Lord has made everything for its purpose, even the wicked for the day of trouble. (Proverbs 16:4)
And he said, “Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked shall I return. The Lord gave, and the Lord has taken away; blessed be the name of the Lord.” (Job 1:21)
But he said to her, “You speak as one of the foolish women would speak. Shall we receive good from God, and shall we not receive evil?” In all this Job did not sin with his lips. (Job 2:10)
Behold, he snatches away; who can turn him back? Who will say to him, ‘What are you doing?’ (Job 9:12)
In his hand is the life of every living thing and the breath of all mankind. (Job 12:10)
I know that you can do all things, and that no purpose of yours can be thwarted. (Job 42:2)
The Lord will reign forever and ever. (Exodus 15:18)
Yours, O Lord, is the greatness and the power and the glory and the victory and the majesty, for all that is in the heavens and in the earth is yours. Yours is the kingdom, O Lord, and you are exalted as head above all. Both riches and honor come from you, and you rule over all. In your hand are power and might, and in your hand it is to make great and to give strength to all. (1 Chronicles 29:11-12)
and said, “O Lord, God of our fathers, are you not God in heaven? You rule over all the kingdoms of the nations. In your hand are power and might, so that none is able to withstand you. (2 Chronicles 20:6)
For kingship belongs to the Lord, and he rules over the nations. (Psalm 22:28)
The Lord of hosts has sworn: “As I have planned, so shall it be, and as I have purposed, so shall it stand, (Isaiah 14:24)
and the Lord said, ‘Who will entice Ahab, that he may go up and fall at Ramoth-gilead?’ And one said one thing, and another said another. Then a spirit came forward and stood before the Lord, saying, ‘I will entice him.’ And the Lord said to him, ‘By what means?’ And he said, ‘I will go out, and will be a lying spirit in the mouth of all his prophets.’ And he said, ‘You are to entice him, and you shall succeed; go out and do so.’ Now therefore behold, the Lord has put a lying spirit in the mouth of all these your prophets; the Lord has declared disaster for you.” (1 Kings 22:20)
And the Lord said to Moses, “When you go back to Egypt, see that you do before Pharaoh all the miracles that I have put in your power. But I will harden his heart, so that he will not let the people go. (Exodus 4:21)
Samson went down to Timnah, and at Timnah he saw one of the daughters of the Philistines. Then he came up and told his father and mother, “I saw one of the daughters of the Philistines at Timnah. Now get her for me as my wife.” But his father and mother said to him, “Is there not a woman among the daughters of your relatives, or among all our people, that you must go to take a wife from the uncircumcised Philistines?” But Samson said to his father, “Get her for me, for she is right in my eyes.” His father and mother did not know that it was from the Lord, for he was seeking an opportunity against the Philistines. At that time the Philistines ruled over Israel. (Judges 14:1-4)
And now do not be distressed or angry with yourselves because you sold me here, for God sent me before you to preserve life. (Genesis 45:5)
As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good, to bring it about that many people should be kept alive, as they are today. (Genesis 50:20)
who says of Cyrus, ‘He is my shepherd, and he shall fulfill all my purpose’; saying of Jerusalem, ‘She shall be built,’ and of the temple, ‘Your foundation shall be laid.’” (Isaiah 44:28)
Even the stork in the heavens knows her times, and the turtledove, swallow, and crane keep the time of their coming, but my people know not the rules of the Lord. (Jeremiah 8:7)
And I will cast you on the ground; on the open field I will fling you, and will cause all the birds of the heavens to settle on you, and I will gorge the beasts of the whole earth with you. (Ezekiel 32:4)
And he awoke and rebuked the wind and said to the sea, “Peace! Be still!” And the wind ceased, and there was a great calm. (Mark 4:39)
And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose. For those whom he foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, in order that he might be the firstborn among many brothers. And those whom he predestined he also called, and those whom he called he also justified, and those whom he justified he also glorified. (Romans 8:28-30)
The last few days have been rough. I can’t point to one thing in particular as the culprit; it’s really more like a convergence of issues conspiring against my joy and my peace. It is times like these that I have learned and am still learning to NOT trust my “feelings.” At any given time, my feelings are being affected by all sorts of factors like a lack of sleep, concern for my wife and children, the stress of my job, school requirements, life’s demands, etc. The alternative to relying on such fickle emotions (that seem to fluctuate by the minute at times) is the Truth – i.e. God’s Word. God has spoken to us so that we will know where to put our hope and confidence, and here’s a hint – it’s not in ourselves.
I read Lamentations chapter 3 this morning. (For some reason, I tend to end up in Lamentations when I feel like pitying myself.) In this chapter the prophet Jeremiah is bemoaning the suffering of the nation, but it is clear that he is experiencing the associated pain and bewilderment within himself as well. Listen to his words:
1 I am the man who has seen affliction under the rod of his wrath; 2 he has driven and brought me into darkness without any light; 3 surely against me he turns his hand again and again the whole day long. 4 He has made my flesh and my skin waste away; he has broken my bones; 5 he has besieged and enveloped me with bitterness and tribulation; 6 he has made me dwell in darkness like the dead of long ago.
Jeremiah is in some serious misery. But watch what happens as he is going through his list of troubles, (as we tend to do). He comes to the end of his pity party and says in verse 18, “so I say, ‘My endurance has perished; so has my hope from the LORD.’” He thought he was going to get away with that little zinger at God, but it had the exact opposite effect. It was as if the very mention of God’s name turned his thoughts upward. After inviting (telling) God to join in his pity party, reality hits him in the face.
God hasn’t left him to his emotions. God hasn’t left him to his suffering.
21 But this I call to mind, and therefore I have hope: 22 The steadfast love of the LORD never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; 23 they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. 24 “The LORD is my portion,” says my soul, “therefore I will hope in him.” 25 The LORD is good to those who wait for him, to the soul who seeks him. 26 It is good that one should wait quietly for the salvation of the LORD.
Jeremiah’s plight really was severe. He had suffered greatly and probably was in the middle of a devastating situation the likes of which would make anything I am facing look like a walk in the park. But in the midst of that great suffering, God called forth his mind from the pits of self-despair and turned his heart into one that burst forth with the words, “Great is your faithfulness!”
That’s a turn-around. That’s what we all need at times.
When all around my soul looks like it is giving way, I need to remember Truth. Appearances and feelings are unreliable. God isn’t.
Great is Thy Faithfulness
Great is Thy faithfulness!
Great is Thy faithfulness!
Morning by morning new mercies I see.
All I have needed Thy hand hath provided;
Great is Thy faithfulness, Lord, unto me!
Great is Thy faithfulness, O God my Father;
There is no shadow of turning with Thee;
Thou changest not, Thy compassions, they fail not;
As Thou hast been, Thou forever will be.
Summer and winter and springtime and harvest,
Sun, moon and stars in their courses above
Join with all nature in manifold witness
To Thy great faithfulness, mercy and love.
Pardon for sin and a peace that endureth
Thine own dear presence to cheer and to guide;
Strength for today and bright hope for tomorrow,
Blessings all mine, with ten thousand beside!
-Thomas Chisholm (1866-1960)
Seven important verses about blood.
Indeed, under the law almost everything is purified with blood, and without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness of sins. Hebrews 9:22
For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified by his grace as a gift, through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus, whom God put forward as a propitiation by his blood, to be received by faith. Romans 3:23-25
And when I see the blood, I will pass over you, and no plague will befall you to destroy you, when I strike the land of Egypt. Exodus 12:13
For the life of the flesh is in the blood, and I have given it for you on the altar to make atonement for your souls, for it is the blood that makes atonement by the life. Leviticus 17:11
And he took a cup, and when he had given thanks he gave it to them, saying, “Drink of it, all of you, for this is my blood of the covenant, which is poured out for many for the forgiveness of sins.” Matthew 26:27-8
Since, therefore, we have now been justified by his blood, much more shall we be saved by him from the wrath of God. Romans 5:9
And from Jesus Christ the faithful witness, the firstborn of the dead, and the ruler of kings on earth. To him who loves us and has freed us from our sins by his blood. Revelation 1:5
There is a fountain filled with blood
drawn from Immanuel’s veins
And sinners plunged beneath that flood
Lose all their guilty stains
The dying thief rejoiced to see
That fountain in his day;
And there may I, though vile as he
Wash all my sins away
Dear dying Lamb, thy precious blood
Shall never lose its power
Till all the ransomed church of God
Are saved, to sin no more
For since by faith I saw the stream
Thy flowing wounds supply
Redeeming love has been my theme
and shall be till I die
When this poor lisping,
Lies silent in the grave
Then in a nobler, sweeter song
I’ll sing thy power to save
William Cowper – April 25,1800
A reason I love her for each year she’s been my wife.
1) …because my eyes still drink deeply every time I look at her.
2) …because she is the strongest woman I have ever met.
3) …because she still makes me feel like a teenage shlub who gets to hang out with the prom queen.
4) …because she is my most favorite person in the world.
5) …because she loves to be treated like a Princess.
6) …because I never get tired of asking myself “How did I get this lucky?”
7) …because she has given me three incredible children.
8) …because her eyes dance like sparkling water when she laughs.
9) …because she has sacrificed so much for me.
10) …because she loves digging into God’s Word.
11) …because I can share my soul with her without judgment.
12) …because even when she annoys me, I cannot for the life of me, stay mad at her.
13) …because for some reason, she thinks I’m funny.
14) …because when God made a Dani, he turned and made an Andy.
15) …because there is no one else I would rather spend my entire life with.
16) …because she loves Jesus.
Happy Anniversary my love.
I wrote this over a year ago and had it posted on another site, but I thought I would share it again with a few minor changes.
I have been thinking lately about tomorrow – the “tomorrow” we all seem to assume will come. I guess it is partly because over the past year or so I have become painfully aware that the sin of procrastination has slipped into my life. Now before you think I am going overboard by calling procrastination a sin, understand that I am not saying anything that God’s Word does not say. James 4:17 states “So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin.” Also, Proverbs 27:1 says “Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring.” Thankfully, God has made me aware of the devastation my procrastination could lead to and through his strength, I have begun to fight it.
But as I have been thinking about my tendency to put things off and the ease with which I do so, I cannot help but put it in the context of how I treat my time with my children. A few verses before the one just mentioned, James says this: “Come now, you who say, ‘Today or tomorrow we will go into such and such a town and spend a year there and trade and make a profit’ — yet you do not know what tomorrow will bring. What is your life? For you are a mist that appears for a little time and then vanishes.”
The idea that I will have a “tomorrow” to accomplish the things which I know I need to do today is so easy, it is boastful, it is proud. Satan wants it to be easy. But the truth is that this is critical when we are talking about the discipleship of our children. I love how the apostle Paul references Biblical fatherhood as being so foundational to Christians that he could use it as an analogy in other instances. Look what he says in his first letter to the church in Thessalonica (2:11-12) “For you know how, like a father with his children, we exhorted each one of you and encouraged you and charged you to walk in a manner worthy of God, who calls you into his own kingdom and glory.” (emphasis mine)
We only get one (roughly) 18 year period for true impact of our discipleship. Do not get me wrong here, there are other and important opportunities after children are grown and leave home, but their time spent under our roof is the most precious and life-forming.
Walk with me through a quick scenario…
WHAT IF you were told that TOMORROW you will send your sons and daughters into the battlefield? TOMORROW, they will suit up with whatever armor and weapons you have equipped them with and walk alone into the midst of chaos to wage war. TOMORROW, your son will for the last time, ask your permission to leave the safety of your home before he confronts the enemy on his own. TOMORROW your daughter will encounter deception at every turn; the fog of war will be heavy. The potential for confusion is going to be extreme… TOMORROW. The enemy is prepared to and will attack at the first opportunity… and the target is your precious son or daughter. Visualize your children as they suit up with ONLY what you have given them as of this very moment to survive!
The problem is that most of us cannot really relate to this scenario. The idea of our children growing up and leaving home is so far removed from the above images that these questions ring hollow to many of us. Simply put, we do not have a wartime mentality. We do not think we are at war. My response to that is… we ARE at war! Satan and his minions have plans for your children. Plans which if you heard would make you cry, plans that would make you vomit, plans that will lead your children straight to destruction – IF, they aren’t prepared to fight in the strength of the Lord. Read the following scriptures. Read them slowly and listen for the language of war.
2 Corinthians 10:3-6 For though we walk in the flesh, we are not waging war according to the flesh. For the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh but have divine power to destroy strongholds. We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ, being ready to punish every disobedience, when your obedience is complete.
Ephesians 6:10-12 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might. Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil. For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.
If we can allow God to transform our thinking into a true spiritual wartime mindset, then every hour, every minute, every second we have with our children becomes an opportunity for discipleship. I assure you, even if you have never thought in these terms before, you have been training your children. What you treasure – whether it is your hobbies, time at work, stuff, etc. – shows them what to treasure.
I know we all have busy schedules. I know our days go by so, so fast. But if you think you are going to have tomorrow to disciple your children, Satan’s snipers already have you and your children in their crosshairs! Their fingers have begun to apply tension to the trigger! What are you going to do about it?
The Biblical solution is to LEAD… TODAY! First and foremost, lead them to the cross of Christ, daily! Lead them in Bible study. Lead them in prayer. Lead them in worship. Lead them by your example. Lead them by loving your wife the way God calls you to. Lead them through loving your husband the way God calls you to. Lead them through God’s strength. Don’t focus on your failures! Focus on Christ and allow them to see your focus on Him!
We are in enemy occupied territory… tomorrow your children will walk out of your door to face the battle head-on. TODAY, you have the opportunity to prepare them.
Men behave themselves as those who depend on another day, when they neglect anything today which must be done before they die. – Jonathan Edwards